in a new interview with Thrillist, he’s been playing gay characters pretty consistently since the ’90s, which feels like a rarity.

After breaking through on the long-running soap One Life To Live, he wasn’t exactly hiding his sexuality in the industry, but the actor wasn’t ready to go public, either.“I feel like I was caught in a catch-22,” he shares. “I was a gay actor who shouldn’t play gay roles if I wanted to play straight roles.

But I was also a gay actor who they weren’t hiring to play the straight roles because they knew I was gay. It’s amazing that I got any work.”Related: Matt Bomer, Robin de Jesus and Tuc Watkins on gay shame, sex & ‘The Boys in the Band’Indeed, he continued to book, including the hit ABC drama Desperate Housewives as Bob Harper, one half of a successful gay couple who moved to Wisteria Lane in 2007, during the show’s fourth season.It was during his run on the show that Watkins became a father to twins via surrogacy—something he’d long dreamed about.