“Why just the other day, I saw one of them he-she’s walking around. You don’t see that stuff where I came from.” He must have used the term “he-she” a couple of times and it was like the sound of fingernails on a chalkboard.I thought about what I should say or do.

Should I speak up and tell him that the term “he-she” is disrespectful? Should I say, “You know, I’m transgender too.” I didn’t say anything.

I didn’t want to spoil the moment of our team’s close bonding and I didn’t want to out myself. I was reveling in our team bonding and felt like I would ruin the moment.