Grindr one day when he came across a headless torso shot. The torso seemed a little familiar, but what set off an alarm in Jacob’s head was the background.“They have one of those ensuites that are through the walk-in closet.

I thought that looks sort of like my parents’ house,” he said.“I clicked through the profile to see if it could be my dad,” he said.He said his mom and dad had been together 27 years.

He’d never had any reason to suspect his dad was anything but heterosexual or unhappy.“I have never seen any signs of a rift between them,” he said.Related: “No one loves a fairy over 40” is a big, fat lieJacob, who also has a headless profile pic, decided to message the profile to find out if it really was his dad.“I wasn’t flirting with him, I just engaged in normal conversation, told him I liked his picture and asked where he is from,” he said.“Then I asked for a picture of his face – when he sent it through it was my dad.”Jacob was torn over what to do: confront his dad or tell his mom?“I am very open and forward-thinking, I don’t care if he is gay I just don’t want him lying to my mum,” he said.To complicate matters further, Jacob says his dad reacted particularly badly when his son came out as gay.“He was super against it when I was coming out – he hated me – he was super angry and didn’t want anything to do with me in his life,” he said.“The older closeted men are often homophobic,” he added, saying it had taken them years to get back to good terms with one another.Host Kyle wondered if it was better to let sleeping dogs lie, suggesting maybe Jacob’s mom might already be aware of the situation.